Tag: Psychology

  • The Loneliness Formula Explains Why You Feel Lonely (And What to Do About It)

    Loneliness is a complex, confusing, and diverse sensation. Chances are, we’ll never be able to express it fully. But we can try. In fact, we should try because most people still have misconceptions about loneliness. We’ve all experienced this painful feeling but often struggle to put it into words. What’s worse, loneliness has become stigmatized […]

  • The 3-Question Method That Makes Everything You Buy More Meaningful

    I used to fill my life with a lot of empty crap. Another fancy watch. A new smartphone for no reason. Clothes I only wore once. And that was nice for a while… But over time, I realized a disquieting truth: I’d filled my life with empty stuff to feel better about myself, externalize my […]

  • This Is the (Crucial) Difference Between Loneliness and Being Alone

    The language we use to talk about loneliness (if we ever talk about it) is like scrambled eggs. We put all the vocabulary in a humungous frying pan, give it a sturdy whisk, and add ingredients according to our fantasy and imagination. For instance, a friend recently told me, “I like being lonely.” But what […]

  • The 3 Types of Loneliness: A Simple Model for Deeper Connections

    One of the most frustrating things about loneliness? It’s complex. Everyone experiences different kinds of loneliness in different stages of their lives. Loneliness is not a lightbulb we can turn on and off; it’s a vast spectrum of brightness, colors, and temperatures. But that doesn’t mean we’re powerless. Quite the opposite: With just a few […]

  • Why We’re Doomed to Be Unhappy (But That’s Okay)

    Let’s be completely honest here: We spend most of our lives doomed to be unhappy. In the summer it’s too hot. During winter it’s too cold. Everything in between is too inconsistent and unpredictable. We crave relationships. But once we get into them, we complain that they’re messy and complicated. We like the idea of […]